Monday, 29 September 2014

Bad Advice

Sind Eure Ratschläge immer gut?

Cap: H&M / Glasses: Lewi`s / Necklace: Pieces / Top: H&M / Jacket: Adidas /
Bag: Céline / Pants: H&M / Mules: Zara

Mein lieber Mann konfrontierte mich gestern Abend mit einer Frage zu einer Situation, die ihn beschäftigt. Ich fand das, was er mir schilderte nicht nur sehr spannend, nein, wie üblich fiel mir dazu natürlich auf der Stelle eine Menge ein. Selbstverständlich hatte ich auch einen entsprechenden Ratschlag für ihn, wie er mit der Situation meiner Meinung nach umgehen sollte.

Mein Mann hörte mir zu, dann stutzte er und schüttelte den Kopf: „Also nein, überdenk doch noch mal, was Du gerade eben zu mir gesagt hast. Das macht überhaupt keinen Sinn. Und überhaupt, habe ich Dich nach einem Rat gefragt?“

Mich durchzuckte es auf der Stelle, und ich fühlte mich unmittelbar betroffen. Denn auch wenn es mir sehr schwer fiel, das zuzugeben, mit dem letzten Satz hatte mein Mann auf jeden Fall recht. Und umso länger ich darüber nachdachte, musste ich auch gestehen, dass ich mit meinem Vorschlag tatsächlich über das Ziel hinausgeschossen war. Denn wenn mein Mann meinem Rat tatsächlich gefolgt wäre, hätte das vermutlich sehr negative Folgen für ihn gehabt.

Daher bat ich meinen Mann etwas später um Verzeihung und nahm mir einmal mehr vor, in Zukunft nicht nur besser nachzudenken, sondern so wie ich es gelernt habe, nur dann einen Rat zu erteilen, wenn ich ausdrücklich danach gefragt werde.

Wie geht Ihr mit Situationen um, die Euch beschäftigen? Wann gebt Ihr Ratschläge? Was vergesst Ihr immer wieder, obwohl Ihr es gelernt habt?

Aber ich weiß jetzt nicht, ob ich in Bezug auf mein heutiges Outfit mit der weißen Adidas-Jacke, der schwarzen Hose mit den Lederpaspeln und den schwarzen Mules doch jemanden fragen hätte sollen ...


Are your advices always good?

Namely, my lovely husband confronted me last night with a question about a situation that bothered him. I found what he described not only very exciting, no, as usual, I had on the spot many ideas for solving this situation. Exactly my ideas I didn't hesitated to tell my husband.

My husband listened to me, then frowned and shook his head: "No! Please think about what you have just said to me. That makes no sense at all. And anyway, did I ask you for advice?"

It flashed through me on the spot, and I felt directly affected. Because even if it was hard for me to admit, my husband was definitely right. The longer I thought about it I had to admit that I actually overshot the mark with my advice. And if my husband would actually follow my advice this would have been probably very negative consequences for him.

So I begged my husband pardon and took once more the intent, not only to think better in the future, but also as I've learned only give an advice if I get explicitly a request for this.

How do you deal with situations that bother you? When do you give advice? What do you forget again and again, even though you have learned it?

But now I don't know if I should have ask someone regarding my outfit of today with the white Adidas jacket, the black pants with the leather details and the black mules ...




Fall in our region

168 comments:

  1. Have a successful day dear! Your outfit as a whole is gorgeous! xx

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  2. Love the outfit!

    Lauren,
    http://www.atouchofsoutherngrace.com/

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  3. I love your sporty chic look Rena! Your jacket is amazing, especially paired with cool mules like yours, I guess I have the same! ;)
    have an amazing Monday!
    XO
    Jeanne
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  4. Always love your outfit :)

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  5. I'm liking your black & white look. The jacket looks especially fantastic. I love the athletic stripes. :] // itsCarmen.com ☼ ☯

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  6. Love this look

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  7. I love this sporty outfit, you bag is gorgeous and I also love the jacket!
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  8. Love the touch of sportiness in the look :)

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  9. I think that i will always give suggestions to my husband. Instead for other people….I give advice only if they ask me!
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    1. I can imagine the advices you have for your husband are good :) And you are smart, you give other people only advice if they ask you!

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  10. Something similar happened to me not long ago with my sister :)
    But now dear Rena I would love to get your opinion :) I got myself a try-color Celine trapeze. But now I am thinking of exchanging it against a solid color (black or beige) or a phantom. With Phantom I have the concerns that it is heavy and it doesn't come with a shoulder strap.
    What are your thought on this? THANK YOU XXX.

    To your outfit: You look so sassy, chic and effortless!! I love that trapeze on you so much <3

    Love from Vienna,
    Mahshid مهشید


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    1. Thanks for sharing that something similar happened to you with your sisters, this helps me to bear my fault :) It’s a huge honour for me that you ask me for advice, thank you for that! If I had again to decide which Céline to buy I would again decide for the black Trapez as this bag is absolutely versatile and I wear it very often and always with huge pleasure. I think for you a black Trapez would be a good decision as you love to wear monochrome white and black looks and I can imagine this bag is a perfect add for your wardrobe. I decided against the phantom as this bag is for me a little bit too playful and doesn’t have the clear shapes I prefer. I wish you with all my heart that you will take the right decision!

      Many thanks for your feedback <3

      Love to Vienna,
      Rena

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    2. Thank you my dear Rena so very much for your thoughts on my Celine-issue :)

      Next week I go to Venice and will see….

      Xoxox Mahshid

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    3. You are welcome, dear Mahshid! Now I'm looking forward for which bag you will decide, wish you many success and I'm sure you will make the right decision <3

      Xoxox Rena

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  11. Love the bag! :) Very stylish.

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  12. Morning, Rena! I don't usually give advice save to my husband, lol. Love your look, the pants are amazing. Have a wonderful week!

    Jasmine ♥
    For a Real Woman - Instagram - Bloglovin

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    1. Hello Jasmine, I think your advices are always appreciated :) Thanks for loving my look! Have a wonderful week!

      Rena ♥

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  13. Oh die Jacke und die Mules, genau wieder einmal mein Geschmack liebe Rena:)

    Das ist schwierig mit den Ratschlägen, ich erinnre da an Diogenes von Sinope, der zum König meinte, egal wie Du Dich entscheidest, Du entscheidest falsch. Der Philosoph im Fass hatte Recht.

    Ich bin immer sparsam mit Ratschlägen, ich überlege mir zuerst, ob mir mein Ratschlag auch passen würde. Im Geschäft ist es anders, da geht es eigentlich immer um Dinge, die ich verantworten kann, wie Pünktlichkeit, Sauberkeit, Ordnung u.s.w., Du weisst, da bin ich streng.

    So, wir haben um 14 Uhr den Platz gemietet, jetzt gehen wir in die Stadt ein wenig shoppen.

    Liebe Grüsse sendet Dir:)

    Orianne

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    1. Vielen Dank, liebe Orianne:)

      Der Philosoph im Fass hatte auch meiner Meinung nach Recht! Vielen lieben Dank für dieses schöne philosophische Beispiel.

      Das ist gut, dass Du so sparsam mit Ratschlägen bist, auch das schaue ich mir gerne von Dir ab. Deine Vorschläge im Geschäft sind aber ganz sicher nicht nur sehr geschätzt sondern auch sehr wertvoll!

      Hoffentlich hattet Ihr einen erfolgreichen Shopping-Vormittag und habt das Spiel auf dem Platz sehr genossen!

      Liebe Grüße sendet Dir:)

      Rena

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  14. I love your outfit B&W! Kisses.
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  15. I always love the master melange of classy style and sporty touch in your looks, really make it elegant...Of course I love love this outfit Rena!! José Luis and I always give us advice to each other but sometimes we do not take much notice (lol)

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    1. Thanks a lot dear Noemi, your lovely feedback makes me so happy! Sometimes it is clever I think do not take much notices of advices :)

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  16. Liebe Rena,
    eine Geschichte wie diese kenne ich nur zu gut: Oft passiert es mir, dass ich Ratschläge gebe, obwohl sie nicht gefragt sind, gerade bei lieben Menschen, die wichtig sind, schließlich will man ihnen immer gern helfen und das Beste für sie. Aber du hast recht, manchmal ist Zuhören besser als Ratschläge zu geben... Danke für die Erinnerung an ein bisschen Lebensweisheit.. und für eine - mal wieder - tolle Outfitinspiration! Diese Hose ist aber auch wirklich ein Träumchen!

    Ich verlose auf meinem Blog übrigens gerade mein allerliebstes Lieblingsbuch, vielleicht hast du es ja noch nicht gelesen!

    Alles Liebe
    Laura
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    1. Liebe Laura,
      puh, dann bin ich ja nicht ganz alleine mit meiner Angewohnheit … Ich hoffe jetzt insbesondere für mich, dass ich meine Erinnerung an diese Lebensweisheit möglichst lange im Gedächtnis behalte :) Freu mich, dass Du mein Outfit inspirierend findest und diese Hose kann ich sehr empfehlen, denn sie setzt obendrein noch richtig gut.

      Danke für Deine liebe Einladung!

      Alles Liebe
      Rena

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  17. I cant wait your next post! i hope we will follow each other :* http://lamiastoria018.blogspot.com/

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  18. when i am in a situation like like that , i sit back and absorb it first and then ask my brother for advice, have to admit , he is always rit
    u look great in the sporty trend
    keep in touch
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    1. You have obviously a wonderful brother and your method is so smart that I hopefully will copy it :)
      Thanks for your feedback!
      Keep in touch

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  19. ootd is so sporty and chic! :))

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  20. your look is super cute! love it!!!
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  21. What a great mix of sporty and classy! Love the bag! Beautiful necklace and nice Zara shoes! Amazing scenery and wonderful photos!

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  22. I love your jacket - looks like the perfect weight for winter.

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  23. Cool outfit love the jacket you look fierce doll.
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  24. Rena I love your looks I think you always find the perfect outfit!!

    Kisses pretty!!

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  25. I love this sport chic outfit - you look like coming out of a magazine cover :))

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  26. Beautiful look! I really love ur shoes, they look super comfy :)

    xoxo

    Novelstyle

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  27. You look so pretty!!! I love your bag and jacket!!!
    Have a good week, dear Rena!! my g+ and like's for you!!!:)))

    Besos, desde España, Marcela♥

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  28. Wonderful outfit, Rena! Have a wonderful week! x

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  29. Sportlich, sportlich liebe Rena :) die Schuhe sind nicht ganz mein Geschmack, aber das Outfit im ganzen wirkt so spannend und passend, Kompliment.
    Bei Ratschlägen bin ich sehr vorsichtig, ich warte meist bis man mich direkt danach fragt. Nicht weil ich keine Meinung dazu hätte, sondern weil ich glaube schon oft auch mal schlechte Ratschläge gehört habe und es nicht immer gleich merkte. Wunderbar, dass dein Mann da Durchblick bewahrt und du reflektieren kannst und merkst falls gut gemeint nicht das richtige war in dem Moment.
    Liebe Grüsse, Ela

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    1. Wenigstens ist mein Outfit sportlich, liebe Ela :) Danke! Ich bin auch gerade dabei mich an meine Schuhe zu gewöhnen ...
      Du bist sehr klug, dass Du mit Vorschlägen so vorsichtig bist, das schaue ich mir äußerst gerne von Dir ab!
      Liebe Grüße, Rena

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  30. awesome combination and styling of this look sweetie!!

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  31. nice bag!!!!
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  32. Nice:)) x
    Bianka
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  33. great look
    love your jacket


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  34. Liebe Rena,
    so ist das leider mit uns hilfsbereiten Menschen (ich gehöre auch dazu), die gerne anderen helfen, sei es mit Gesten oder wie in diesem Fall: Ratschlägen.
    Meine Freundin neigt auch dazu, mir oft Situationen zu schildern, auf die ich sofort ein paar hilfreiche Worte parat habe. Nur will sie die manchmal nicht hören. Vielleicht auch, weil sie vor der Wahrheit Angst hat.. naja.. ich habe mir schon oft vorgenommen, nicht mehr allzu schnell zu sein, was Ratschläge angeht. Nur ist dieser Vorsatz irgendwie schwer einzuhalten. :)

    Ich wünsche dir einen schönen Abend.

    xoxo
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    1. Liebe Selly,
      dann haben wir offenbar beide denselben Vorsatz gefasst :) Ja, mit den Ratschlägen, das ist wirklich alles andere als eine einfache Sache: selbst die Menschen, die danach fragen, sind offenbar im Endeffekt nicht immer bereit dazu, die entsprechenden Ratschläge anzunehmen …

      xoxo
      Rena

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  35. sometimes we give advice even when it would be better not to...but no matter how good are our intentions, we must think it trough...and take a minute to think if our advice is necessary.

    You look wonderful dear Rena. I love the Adidas jacket ...and I adore those mules!

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    1. Taking a minute before giving advice is really smart and a good solution, hopefully the next time I will remember this recipe …

      Thanks for your feedback, I love my Adidas jacket, too, but regarding the mules honestly I’m still not totally convinced :)

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    2. I understand why you might not be convinced, some people think mules are the ugliest shoes...but honesty I love them...perhaps because they remind me of my childhood and the 90ties:) The pair I have and wear often I bought few years ago ...so even before they were so trendy.

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    3. Thank you for understanding :) And I think you mentioned indeed the right reason for my ambivalent feelings: the 90s when I have worn such mules in many variations ... you are a true avant-gardist as you bought your mules already a few years ago <3

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  36. Finde es super, wie du sportlich mit chic kombiniert hast! Steht dir super! Liebst, Vanessa

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  37. Amazing black and white look! Very chic yet sporty! =)

    NEW POST on http://whattostyle.blogspot.com/

    xoxo,
    Jess

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  38. in love with the back ground and the whole outfit! specailly the shoes! Thanks for your lovely comment in my blog! I am now following you to keep in touch with your recent updates!
    xx
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  39. I very like sporty chic look!

    Eli
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  40. Love the outfit.. I really like the outdoors pictures!
    xo ClassToCloset

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  41. Bei mir ist es immer so, dass wenn mich jemand um Rat fragt ich nicht weiß was ich sagen soll und wenn mich keiner fragt, sich ganze Romane in meinem Kopf abspielen... Das ist nicht sehr produktiv :)
    Bei deinem Outfit musst Du definitiv nicht um Rat fragen, das ist super wie immer. Sportlich aber doch elegant .
    Liebe grüße,
    Jone

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    1. Mich beeindruckt das was sich in Deinem Kopf abspielt immer wieder, liebe Jone, und ich bin darüber hinaus davon überzeugt, dass Du sehr wohl weißt, welchen Rat Du erteilen könntest.
      Vielen Dank für Dein liebes Feedback, Du beruhigst mich :)

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  42. Sportlich und verflixt chic, liebe Rena! Mehr Farbe braucht es gar nicht - das tolle ROT auf Lippen und Nägeln übersah ich nicht ;)

    Zu Deiner Geschichte: kenn ich, mach' ich genauso. Ich habe immer gleich eine Idee/Meinung/einen Ratschlag - ungefragt, versteht sich. Ich weiss nicht, ob ich es nochmal lerne, meine Klappe nicht gleich aufzureissen. Kommunikation ist doch alles, also besser zuviel als zu wenig... Ganz liebe Grüße zu Dir, Bärbel

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    1. Du übersiehst auch niemals etwas, liebe Bärbel! Danke :)

      Puh, und danke, dass Du so ehrlich schreibst, dass es Dir ganz genauso geht … irgendwie fällt mir immer etwas ein - ob erwünscht oder nicht - und ich hoffe sehr, insbesondere für meine Mitmenschen, dass ich es irgendwann schaffe, meinen Mund zu halten … Aber natürlich ist Kommunikation alles! Ganz liebe Grüße, Rena

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  43. Wenn man sich mir erklärt frage ich nach, bis ich glaube die Situation einschätzen zu können. Dann sage ich, wie ich die Situation empfinde. Ggf. auch aus der Sicht des Gegenübers. Ähnlich einer kollegialen Beratung. Ratschläge sind immer schwierig. Meist reicht schon ein Denkanstoß....
    LG Sunny

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    1. Liebe Sunny, Du bist jetzt mein Vorbild! Sehr nachahmenswert, wie Du das machst, hoffentlich komme ich irgendwann wenigstens annährend hin … Denkanstoß ist auf jeden Fall besser als ein Ratschlag, denn schon in dem Wort steckt ein Schlag :)
      LG Rena

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  44. Äh, das Outfit ist sehr lässig. Wenn ich Dich nicht besser kennen würde, täte ich meinen Du bist ins Sportlerlager übergewechselt.
    LG Sunny

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    1. Danke, ich fühle mich jetzt direkt sportlich :)
      LG Rena

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  45. Rena I give up, I really do. You still wear the wrong cap *sigh* other than that, you look great, love the sportive and yet classic b/w outfit on you. Advice? Well I suppose I only give advice when asked, though. See I told you time and again you should wear the right cap, and? did you listen? Nope, you didn't *sigh* ;)
    kisses darling
    Lenya
    FashionDreams&Lifestyle

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    1. Lenya, so sorry that I constantly disappointing you … I understand it really that you give up and that you lost all hope with me as I didn’t listen to your constant advice :) But I thank you really that you love my look, this makes me happy! Hopefully I will finally be able to receive this also regarding the cap :)
      Kisses darling
      Rena

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  46. sporty chic outfit. I like it
    xxx
    mari
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  47. Well, when it comes to giving advice, I'm not very keen in giving it... I think that people most of the time don't consider an advice as a help but just need a confirmation of their own opinion... if you give them the opposite, they still do it their way! So, maybe is just better to tell them what you think but not to try to convince them to do anything!
    I love your sporty chic look! You look very beautiful and very cool. I'm only not a huge fan of the mules... just still haven't found a pair I liked!
    Kisses my dear friend!

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    1. This is also a true aspect you mentioned, that people although they ask for advice doesn’t follow them. You are also right with your statement that convincing is not the best way … hopefully I will keep this in my mind :)
      Thanks for loving my look, honestly I neither don’t know if I’m a fan of my mules :) Wish you will find soon the pair you like for you!
      Kisses my dear friend!

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  48. My dear Rena!, I prefer listening to my friends telling me what's wrong and only if they ask, I'll give them my point of view but not necesarily an advice. Or they decide to take it as an advice or not, the are free to chose!
    Regarding your outfit, I'm totally in love with you bag and your style in general :)

    See you Rena xx

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    1. My dear Charline! You are so wise, how wonderful how you are listening to your friends and that you only give an advice if they ask you! Thank you so much, that you like not only my bag but also my style in general :)

      See you Charline xx

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  49. Rena so perfect sportylook ! Fantastic !
    Ciao
    Mywishstyle

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  50. So great casual style Rena..it looks perfect on you!
    Kisses

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  51. Love this… beautiful sporty chic look!
    kisses from Miami,
    Borka
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  52. great outfit sportlich oder elegant, and very nice mountains in background
    greetings meg
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  53. Liebe Rena,
    meine Ratschläge sind meistens gut, aber bei weitem nicht immer die Besten. Sehr sportlich bist du heute. Viele liebe Grüße Sabine

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    1. Liebe Sabine,
      gute Ratschläge sind schon sehr viel wert! Danke, dass Du findest, dass ich heute sportlich bin, da fühle ich mich gleich so :) Viele liebe Grüße Rena

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  54. That handbag is perfection!

    God bless,
    XO, Claire
    Http://www.littlemissfashionqueen.blogspot.com

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  55. After reading through your post I really want to comment….if something bothers me I will make it clear and if it's a situation that has bothered me I will confront the problem and let everyone know about it but in a nice manner….if it's someone that has annoyed me or bothered me then again I will tell the person how I feel but I will sit down and talk to them…..

    I think if there is something that bothers you then you do need to talk about it, confront the situation and clear the air…..many times people don't realise something has bothered you and will appreciate that you took the time to tell them.

    As for advice, I agree with you - I will only tell someone what I think if they ask about it but MANY times I do speak my mind without thinking……that I'm working on :)

    Lovely outfit too sweetie, sorry for the long comment! :)

    Layla xx

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    1. Dear Layla, thank you really for your long, honest und interesting comment! And I think you method is really good and appropriate that it mostly doesn’t make sense not to speak about what bothers us!

      Hopefully the next time I will remember only telling an advice if I asked for it …

      Rena xx

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  56. Lovely sporty look :))
    Check out my new post
    xoxo

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  57. when I read your story I thought of a funny video I have seen some time ago. It is about differences between man and woman and I think reaction of your husband really fits into pattern presented there... i hope you will like it : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XjUFYxSxDk

    btw you look amazing, I really love this combo!
    xoxo
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    1. Oh, this video is really funny and I think true :) And also a good explanation for the reaction of my husband! Thanks for that and your lovely feedback <3
      xoxo

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  58. Also, meine Ratschläge nehmen meine Freunde wirklich gerne an. Darum kommen auch viele und fragen mich ^_^ Ich selbst brauche auch Rat. Bin aber bei Kritik manchmal etwas zickig ^_^
    Du siehst so schön aus! Ich liebe den sportlichen Look!!!

    Ich drück dich!
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    1. Dich, liebste Stella, würde ich auch gerne um Rat fragen! Und es ist schon richtig, zur rechten Zeit bei Kritik zickig zu reagieren, denn nach der wirst Du ja nicht immer gefragt haben :)
      Danke!

      Ich drück Dich <3

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  59. me gusta mucho el bolso es precioso.Un besazo

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  60. This is perfect! I will steal you all this clothes!

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  61. Great outfit...great combination....

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  62. Liebe Rena, du hast völlig recht, ich bin immer wieder erstaunt wie oft ich ungefragte Ratschläge erhalte. Oftmals will ich ja nur meine Gedanken ordnen. Ich denke auch, wir sind das so gewohnt, dass wir auf der anderen Seite gar nicht sagen, du ich brauche jetzt gar keinen Ratschlag, sondern nur.....Ich habe oft das Gefühl komisch zu sein, wenn ich mich mit Ratschlägen zurückhalte, weil es halt so verbreitet ist....Aber du bestätigst eigentlich mit deiner Einsichtsfähigkeit, meinen Weg! Danke dafür. Dass du in deinem Umfeld ganz sicher nicht mit dicker Jacke und ewig alten Jeans herumläufst, hast du uns heute ja mal wieder gezeigt. Ich finde du hast diesen sportlichen trend, den ich gar nicht einfach umzusetzen finde, geschickt interpretiert! Vor allem bei der Hose habe noch gründlicher hingeguckt:) Toll. Ich hatte vor kurzem eine Idee zum Styling und bin furchtbar gescheitert. Sah einfach scheußlich aus:)))) Danke ganz herzlich für deine lieben Wünsche bei mir. Das hat mich sehr gefreut und mit gut getan! Du bist ein Schatz! Hab eine fabelhafte Woche, wobei ich überzeugt bin, dass du im Grunde eine großartige Ratgeberin bist. LG nach Bayern aus FFM sendet dir Sabina @Oceanblue Style

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    1. Liebe Sabina, ich weiß, ungefragte Ratschläge führen nicht nur zur Erstaunen sondern sind durchaus nicht immer willkommen :) Ich finde es absolut super und nachahmenswert, dass Du Dich mit Deinen Ratschlägen zurückhältst, und meiner Meinung nach solltest Du dieses positive Verhalten unbedingt beibehalten! Freu mich sehr, dass Du findest, ich habe den sportlichen Trend geschickt interpretiert, dieses Outfit war außerdem noch richtig bequem. Bist Du Dir wirklich sicher, dass Du mit Deinem Styling gescheitert bist und bist Du hier nur sehr kritisch Dir selbst gegenüber? Freu mich dass Dir meine guten Wünsche gut getan haben, wünsche Dir daher gerne und von Herzen noch einmal, dass dies für Dich eine nachhaltig gute Woche ist. Hab generell eine fabelhafte Woche, und danke für Dein Vertrauen. Ich weiß jetzt bloß nicht, ob ich mir wünschen soll, dass Du mich mal um Rat fragst, oder nicht :) LG nach FFM aus Bayern sendet Dir Rena

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  63. Who is a bigger fool - the one who is giving bad advice or the one who is following it? Your husband knew that you gave him bad advice and he rejected it, so there should be no problem. We all occasionally say things we don't mean or something really silly slips out. It's hard to be very controlled all the time. I used to be a very good listener, but recently I have become a very bad one and it's horrible. When people say something to me I often realise that I have no idea what they said or even worse I give them a response without thinking what I am saying… It's really bad. It all started with the kids. I spend so much time with them and they talk to me all the time, most of the time making no sense, so I learned to switch off and just say "yes" or whatever else by default. The problem is that I started doing it with other people too!!! :)
    I like your adidas jacket!
    Min x
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    1. Your question is good and you brought me to laugh :) Fortunately I think you are right that my bad advice isn’t a problem for my husband as he rejected it. I wished nevertheless I would be controlled all the time. And I know really about what you are talking, although I’m convinced you are still the good listener as usual.
      Thanks for liking my Adidas jacket, I like it, too :)
      Rena x

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  64. What a lovely look, Rena, black and white suit you particularly well. Great bag... and amazing mules, I adore them!
    About you post: I have to learn to keep my mouth closed, oft people (my husband, for example) don't want to listen to my tips, just need someone who listens to them...

    xoxo
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    1. Thanks Elena!
      And honestly it relieves me that I’m not alone with my challenge :) Wish you also many success!

      xoxo

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  65. LOve your booties! ;) www.outsidefashioncatwalk.com

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  66. Look maravilhoso amei as imagens
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  67. Hi Rena, you have styled so chic sporty look. You look fabulous.
    I try not to give advices, because people don't like when they're given and even if someone is asking for I try to avoid giving, because at the end if something goes wrong or not as they wanted it will be my fault. And if people are very pushy and want hear my opinion I always say that maybe I'm wrong, maybe I don't know all situation, but I would do this or that. I always try to be careful with giving advices.

    xoxo Ra

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    1. Hi Ra, many thanks.
      You are smart and clever that you try not to give advices, you are for sure with this method on the secure side! Like also what you are adding if some people are very pushy :)

      xoxo Rena

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  68. I want your bag so much *_*
    kisses

    Francesca http://everydaycoffee23.blogspot.it

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  69. Ein tolles Outfit, Liebes! Die Tasche finde ich super!
    Hab einen wundervollen Tag!
    <3
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  70. I love this combo of sporty and chic pieces!

    Nameless Fashion Blog

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  71. wow tolles Outfit! :-)
    Liebste Grüße<3

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  72. Beautiful post! I love the photos. Have an amazing day!


    Kenny,
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  73. Hey we all have our moments. Bottom line the situation turned out alright.

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  74. You put me thinking, I know I shared my opinion with some situations with or without being asked, anyway was with good intention.

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    1. I learned this only in the context of my training for my degree for psychotherapy … and now I try to use what I learned, sometimes with more success and sometimes with less success …

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  75. Sportlich uuuuuuuund sexy!!! :)
    Toller Look! Die Hose und die Tasche sehen sehr chic aus :)
    liebe Grüße

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  76. Wonderful!
    New post from me http://theroaronthecatwalk94.blogspot.it/2014/09/marriage-in-green-a-charming-ed.html#more let me know what you think!
    If you want to follow my blog, you'll look, a kiss :*

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  77. You look great with this sporty chic outfit, loving the adidas jacket and the spectacular view. I used to feel inclined to give advice but I'm learning people must experience it for themselves in order to truly value the lesson. Have a great day Rena! xo <3

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    1. Thanks Michelle! Sounds like you learned the same as I … Have a great rest of the week Michelle! xo <3

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  78. So in love with your trapeze!

    x, Van
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  79. I always think that the best advice comes when someone asks you, I like this combination sporty chic, this bag is cute!

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  80. Der sportliche Look steht dir auch richtig gut :)

    Liebste Grüße
    Jana

    www.bezauberndenana.de

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  81. Hi darling!! You have an amazing blog :)
    Your style is totally perfect<!!
    Come an see my new post: "THE RED ONE”
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  82. love the sporty chic vibe! cute bag too! :)

    Metallic Paws

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  83. The bavarian countryside and your gorgeous smile look so amazing :) How have you been sweetheart? I was away for a bit but am back on my blog now ;)
    xx
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    1. It is really wonderful here on the Bavarian countryside :) Everything is fine, thanks for asking, honestly I missed only you, I’m happy to read that you were here :)
      xx

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  84. you look great, I love your shooes so much!!

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  85. Great sporty chic look!! Love it!
    Kiss!
    Passa a trovarmi VeryFP

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  86. I like give an advices, but sometimes they aren't good. You look so pretty and chic in this sporty chic outfit, I love your necklace, Rena <3

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    1. Nevertheless I assume your advices are apprecitated. Thanks for your feedback!

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  87. Love your shoes and actually all your look but i think that you should hace taken the photos in the city because land doesn´t mach. Anyway, love it!

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    1. Many thanks and I agree, this is really one of the disadvantages to live in the Bavarian country side that there aren't cities for photo shootings :)

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  88. Love the Adidas jacket! As someone who is newly married, this post was good for me to hear. We're learning when/how much advise to give each other. I think one of the best (and hardest) things for marriage is being humble and admitting when we are wrong. Sounds like that is exactly what you did in your situation.
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    anneandspencer.com

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    1. Thank you Anne! Congratulations to your marriage, how wonderful to read this and that you are so motivated to do the right things in your partnership. This is outstanding and I’m sure you will take advantage of this. And I agree to the best and hardest things you mentioned: as I’m married since a very long time I know this by my own experience :) Wish you happiness and a constructive relationship <3
      -Rena

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  89. I believe advices are good when given with love!

    I like your sporty outfit a lot :)
    Chiara ~ CHIAWEB.it
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    1. Oh, how wonderful that you have written this! I will keep this in my mind, thanks for that and your feedback <3

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  90. a perfect sporty-chic look dear Rena
    love that jacket
    new outfit on my blog http://tr3ndygirl.com
    i wait you
    kiss

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  91. It's not easy giving advice although I suppose it's for the other person to decide whether or not to accept it. Each situation is different and we just have to do what we think is right at the time. Your mules look so comfortable!

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    1. I think you are right, that’s up to the other person whether or not to accept it. Thanks that you think my mules are comfortable – they are!

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  92. This is a classic sports luxe outfit which really suits you - you can do really feminine and you can do androgyny which makes you very versatile. I love the Adidas top and the mules - perfect.

    If something is bothering me I have a select few people that I share my problems with which makes me feel better. I like to think my friends can rely on me to share their problems too and I always try to offer advice that is genuine and helpful - they might not always accept it but I've done the best I can. Have a lovely week dear Rena x

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    1. Many thanks, dear Colleen, especially that you think I can wear feminine and androgyny looks! Your feedback helps me really for composing my outfits :)

      How wonderful that you selected few people that you share your problems as I’m convinced that already talking about the own themes helps to bear. I’m sure your friends can rely on you – I would definitely do this as you make always an absolutely reliable impression to me! You do for sure the best you can <3 Have a lovely end of the week dear Colleen x

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  93. Looking fabulous in b&w! Love your sporty chic style.

    Bella Pummarola

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  94. fabulous outfit! :)

    -rae, http://www.raellarina.net/

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  95. Fantastic look Rena! I love the way how you have mixed that jacket with your outfit. Have a lovely day ahead! Bx

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  96. You look gorgeous--love this sporty-chic style! And great mules!

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    xo Jess

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  97. you look so chic , Thank for your lovely comment on my blog .I'm your follower now :)

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  98. This is your best look of ever!

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  99. love this bag!! great look:*

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  100. I think the most important is that you realized that it was a bad advice and next time you will think more about it. I usually like to solve things on my own, but good advice always comes in handy.
    Wonderful combo, the black and white look is so sporty and classy at the same time. Love the touch of elegance as a bag and necklace. :)
    Fashion Happenss

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    1. Hopefully next time I will think more about it :) Sometimes it makes really sense to solve things on your own ... but good advice for me is mostly welcome. Although I believe that we all have the key for the solutions inside of us.
      Thanks that you think my combo is wonderful!

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